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Dildos are often seen as only tools for pleasure, but did you know they can also be used for healing? That's right! Your body stores trauma and stress in all areas of the body, including the pelvic floor! Luckily, you can use a dildo to help release that trauma and stress.
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Dildos Aren't Just for Fun: They Can Help Heal Trauma, Too

July 14, 2022

It's no secret that dildos can be used for pleasure, but what you may not know is that they can also be used to heal trauma. Your body stores stress and trauma, and that manifests as pain in different parts of your body. But by using a dildo to help release that trapped energy, you can start to heal the underlying trauma.

Muscles store trauma in muscle knots. A muscle knot is a small, tight bundle of muscle fibers that form when muscles chronically contract or when the body is trying to protect itself. For example, if you fall and hurt your ankle, the muscles around the ankle will tighten to prevent further injury.

This process creates a lot of energy in the body through chemical reactions. Humans were designed to release this energy, usually in the form of tears or laughter. However, we live in stressful times and we're taught to be strong and not cry. So instead of releasing the energy, we hold on to the stress and trauma and build up tension in our muscles.

When we don't release the tension in our muscles, it causes pain. The pain can be sharp and stabbing, or it can be a dull ache. It can cause problems with our posture and our range of motion. Most people don't address the tension in their muscles until there is problem or it becomes painful, then they finally see a massage therapist or a physical therapist.

Massage and physical therapists have different ways of releasing tension in the muscles but the one thing they both do is use deep compression and pressure. The mechanism within muscles that causes the muscles to tighten, can only be released with consistent pressure.

Humans discovered that it is more effective to use deep compression and pressure using a hard tool thousands of years ago. One of the earliest massage tools to be discovered is the Neolithic jade ritual blade that dates back to the Shang Dynasty in China, 2000-1500 BCE but the ancient Mesopotamians, Egyptians, Greeks and Romans all used massage tools. Hard massage tools are effective because they provide deep compression and pressure without having to strain or contort the hands and body of the therapist.

While most of us are all familiar with the pain and tension in our neck, shoulders, and back, we don't think about the same thing happening in our pelvic floor. The pelvic floor is a hammock of muscles that support all of our internal organs and are constantly in use.

Just like any other muscle in the body, the pelvic floor can store tension and trauma. This often happens after childbirth or sexual assault but it can also happen from sitting at a desk all day, emotional stress, or any kind of chronic stress.

When the pelvic floor muscles are tight, they can cause a lot of problems. Females may experience pain during sex, incontinence, or prolapse. Males may experience erectile dysfunction or pain during ejaculation. Many people are too embarrassed to go to a pelvic floor specialist and sadly, there aren't certified and trained pelvic floor specialists in many areas that can help you release the tension in your pelvic floor because it is often considered to be sex work since the genitals are involved.

Luckily, a dildo can provide deep pressure and compression to the muscles as a massage therapist or physical therapist but without having to pay for an appointment and they're readily available! You can use a dildo at your convenience and in the privacy of your own home. It is important to find a dildo that is made of body safe materials.

Personally, I recommend using a glass or crystal dildo or wand to release the tension and trauma stored in your pelvic floor. In my yoni dearmouring course, I go over how to release the trauma stored in your yoni (yoni = sanskrit word for womb).

Looking to release tension in your pelvic floor?

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Wendy is a trauma-informed orgasm coach that specializes in helping women take ownership of their sexual pleasure through simple practices that are backed up by neuroscience and physiology.

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